What Is Stopping You?

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Stop being afraid!  Fear is why most people do not fulfill their dream. Does the “what if” syndrome scare you?  What if something goes wrong? What if something happens? What if I don’t succeed? What if people laugh at me?

First off, let me ask a couple of what if questions to help you with your thoughts.

  • What if you do succeed?
  • What if your dream turns out to be even more great than it is in  your head?
  • What if you don’t try? Will you regret it and just be okay with your life rather than truly happy?
  • What if your child asks you your dreams? What are you going to tell them when they asked why you didn’t fulfill them? What will happen when they use your excuse when they don’t fulfill theirs?

Those are just a few questions you want to ask yourself when you tell yourself you don’t have the time, money or energy to fulfill your dreams.

I believe that you can do it.  You can believe that you can too. It is all about your mindset.  As I am sitting here, my kids are sleeping and Chad is watching Mike and Molly on the other couch, I love that show.  Usually I would be watching 100% with my attention, but I am writing you because I want you to know easy it is to start small with your dreams.

Research, save and create.  We are so close to getting Chad’s T-Shirt business off the ground.  If you asked me last year if we would have been doing that, I would have said, “Nope.”  Now though, things have changed.  Somehow my positive energy and mindset rubbed off on him and he created his design.  It took a few months for that, but of course you would want to prepare if it would take a lot of work. By prepare I mean look at financials, find the least expensive way if you on a budget and plan.  I don’t mean just saying “It will cost too much, so I just won’t do it.”

As I am growing in to parenthood, I find my kids are more happy and less stressed when I am happy and stressed. When my 2 1/2 year old sees me doing something he can tell I am happy about, he wants to join in or like I tell him when he does something good, he will say, “Good job mama.” It helps me realize when he is old enough to understand my happiness and success that he will be proud that Chad and I went for our dreams.

As I tell Chad and almost everyone else I know, “The only person holding you back, is YOU.”  You are the reason you aren’t where you want to be. And you can say that’s not true and point your fingers to any and everyone and tell me until you’re blue in the face that is not the case, but after that, I will repeat, “The only person holding you back, is YOU.”    Now is the best time to start doing your dreams, now is the time to take your weight loss over, now is the time to learn about that opportunity you want to do.  So stop being afraid, fear will just give you anxiety and that doesn’t help anything.

This is so cliche, but 100% true – You can do anything you want, you just have to believe you can and stop being afraid. You are the reason you fail, you are the reason you succeed.  Stop holding yourself back, believe you can do anything and you can!

“You’ve got to win in your mind before you win in your life.” – John Addison

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10 Fabulous Mindset Quotes

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I believe that you can learn a lot from other people. My absolute favorite thing to read are quotes.  Most of them are short, sweet and to the point.  We all need a little motivation here and there.  Here are 10 of my most favorite quotes.  Please share your quotes, I might even turn it in to a free eBook!

  • The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them. - George Bernard Shaw
  • Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower. – Steve Jobs
  • Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else. – Les Brown
  • The greatest discovery of my generation is that man can alter his life simply by altering his attitude of mind. — William James
  • If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. – Jim Rohn
  • Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals. – Henry Ford
  • We all talk to ourselves. A major key to success exists in what we say to ourselves, which helps to shape our attitude and mindset.  -Darren L. Johnson
  • Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and it shall be opened to you. – The Bible
  • Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it. – Oprah
  • Waiting is a trap. There will always be reasons to wait. The truth is, there are only two things in life, reasons and results, and reasons simply don’t count. – Dr. Robert Anthony
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Don’t Go Bankrupt Selling Yourself Short!

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Do you know how awesome you are?  I can tell you that until I am blue in the face, but if you don’t recognize that, you are going to be selling yourself short.

Wonder why your business isn’t growing yet?  It’s because you don’t think you rock and I bet you are undercharging too!

I know that you think because you are a beginner or that you might not be the best thing since sliced bread that you need to charge less.  I am here to tell you that you are wrong.  You want to know why people will want to hire you?  For your experience, for your personality and for the amazing resources that you are going to give them.

Examine Your Thoughts

If you want to be successful and you want to build relationships and gain repeat customers, you really need to take a look at what you are doing.  You don’t want to gain the underpaying repeat customers.  I believe that quality customers are the most important part of business.  Quality customers will pay you what you want because they are 100% committed to whatever you are selling to them.  Although, if you aren’t a quality seller of your services (like how I worded that? :P ), you won’t gain the trust or repeat customers that keep businesses alive.  Look at your thoughts.

Why am I having issues believing in myself?

You are amazing and if you don’t show that to your clients, your family and most of all yourself, your client base might start a downward spiral.  I understand that there are things you might  have had happen to you when you were younger and I get that, trust me.  My parents didn’t make my life an unicorns and lollipops, but I am no longer a victim of my past issues.  I am a creator of my future.  I am confident that I can help others think positive and create their future too.  See, doesn’t that sound better than the story you might be telling yourself in your head?

What can I tell myself that will help me have more confidence in myself and my services?

You might think this is silly, but I tell myself affirmations. I even have some throughout our apartment to remind me of my goals and to encourage me to think positive with a lot of the activities I do. Here are some I have heard and/or used.

  • I am successful with helping people
  • I create my own life
  • I love how money flows easily to me
  • I spend quality time with my family
  • I am a coach that educates and learns from my clients
  • I enjoy interacting with new people every day and building relationships

Those are just a few of the ones I use.  I have a whole binder of positive quotes, thoughts, affirmations and pictures to remind me why I am positive and awesome.  A great book that will help you with affirmations is from Louise Hay, its called, “21 Days To Master Affirmations.” This is a great starter point for you if you are new to affirmations.

When you realize that you are knowledgeable in your niche,  you shouldn’t undercharge.  If you do that, you aren’t giving your knowledge, personality and experience what you deserve.  Start with these affirmations or create ones that suit you and your needs better.  Once you start changing your self-talk, your whole attitude will change.

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January Book Review: Get Rich Click

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January’s book was Get Rich Click by Marc Ostrofsky.  I love this man and I love how he lays everything out.  I’m not going to write a long post about this book, but I will give you a brief overview.

This book is exactly what it says, it is the ultimate guide to teaching you how to make money online. It doesn’t give you just one option. It takes you through every option out there. It even gives you information on Search Engine Optimization (SEO) and Keywords and it goes as deep as showing you how to start a website and take payments on your website.

I believe that I was meant to read this book first this year, not just for the abundance of information that is in there, but because it gives so many free resources online as well.  This book is going to be my “Internet Marketing Bible” that I will refer to whenever I need help with online marketing from internet marketing to creating a retail store online.

This book is also great for beginners.  Are you a mom and want to find a way to stay home with your kids?  Start here.  Are you someone who just wants to bring in a few extra bucks to pay off bills faster?  Start here!

For more information on this awesome book, please click on the link below.

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Stop Being The Audience In Your Own Life

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Life is a road. There are some long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths.As we live, we are faced with many different roads. There are roads that lead to a life of singleness or marriage, roads that lead to fame and fortune or isolation and poverty. There are roads to success or failure, roads to trying and road where you just stand there.

Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Sometimes the hardest road is a  crossroad, I know it has been for me. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will I take? What is the guarantee that the road I take is the right road? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?

No Guarantees.

You really don’t know where a road is going to take you, you aren’t guaranteed success, love and happiness. This is one of the most important things I have learned and I believe that you need to learn too. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Money doesn’t guarantee happiness. Finding God doesn’t guarantee happiness, but what if you don’t do anything at all?  I can guarantee 5 years from now, you will be so disappointed that you didn’t try something because of fear or lack of money. True, there are so many outcomes, that could be out of your control.

Another Truth: The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to each situation that presents itself.  When I started this blog, I got so many opinions and people trying to tell me I wasn’t doing something right.  You know what?  I didn’t listen.  Writing blog entries and helping people succeed make me happy, it gives me the tinglies knowing that I made someone smile or I made someone have their “AHA” moment.

Take The Risk And Make A Decision

Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know until you try, shouldn’t you at least try? It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, but it is also true that one right turn could be an opportunity for an adventure and open even more roads. It is all a matter of what mindset you will be taking. You have the choice between being a lost traveller or a tourist of life. But please make sure when you do make a decision you look at all angles. While I think taking risks and doing something you wouldn’t ordinarily do, I also believe that taking risks is not about being careless. Use some of these checkpoints to help you make your decision.

  • Research and gather information.You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with.  Ask the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who would I need to ask to help me?  When would I be able to start? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for no action is the last of research and information learned about what you want to do.
  • Recognize options and create them. What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few or sometimes you have an abundance of options and opportunities. But what if you find no options? That is when you create your own options. You would be paving your road. Make your creative mind work. Write down all the ideas from the most complex to the most simple ideas. Don’t shoot it down, just write it all down and go with it. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the perfect fit!  What I would do is talk with a friend about your options.  Have them help you and be the reason and objective view for your ideas.  Hell, even have them help you brainstorm and come up with ideas. But make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.
  • Weigh the pros/cons of every option.  That is pretty self-explanatory.
  • Trust yourself and make that decision. So you’ve looked at your options, weighed your pros/cons and really thought about it. Now it is time to really trust yourself, it is time for you to shine and go with your dreams.  Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose… decide… and really believe that you’re choosing the best option at this point in time for you.

Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences, whether its good or bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or the audience to your own life. Whether it is the right or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and know that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.

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27 Lessons I’ve Learned in 27 Years of Life

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I think that every blog should have a post like this because you can learn so much about a person and their life by simply reading lessons they have learned through their experiences.  After reading Benny Hsu’s post on his 34 Life Lessons,  it really inspired me. To read his go check out his website called Get Busy Living.

Let’s talk about what I have learned in my life.

 27. Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff

I used to be super high strung.  I have learned that I need to just go with the flow and take things for what they are: silly small stuff.

26. Act Like a Kid

I believe that acting like a child and goofing off makes you feel better. It is also shown to make you happier.

25. Step Outside Of Your Comfort Zone

When you take a step outside of your comfort zone, you are doing something you haven’t done before and I bet once you have done it, it makes you feel more accomplished, so step out sometimes.

24. I Don’t Need To Be Right To Be Happy

Boy, this one is constantly a work in progress for me.  As I have grown, I have learned that I do not need to always have the last word, I don’t need to prove the other person wrong.  I am learning that it is pointless to fight with someone because I need to be right,  I would rather let it go, let them think they were right and move on.  Life is too short to fight over the little things.

23. You Are Not Entitled To Anything

I remember feeling that because I was brought in to this world that I was entitled to things. Then I started working chat for a wireless company and realize that so many people feel like they entitled to things. Guess what?  You came from dust and to dust you will return. You are not entitled to a discount just because you are a breathing living human being. Neither am I. Earn what you want, don’t just take it because you feel like you deserve it when you really don’t.

22. I Regret The Things I Didn’t Do

It amazes me still that so many people are afraid to do something, but have so many passions or dreams.  When you are 60, you are going to think about those things you wanted to accomplish and regret it.  Try 1 thing that you have wanted to do each year and see how it makes you feel. I bet it will be great stories for your friends, family and/or kids.

21. Laugh, just laugh

Life is way too short not to laugh.  Some of my favorite moments have just  been with my kids and watching my son act goofy that he is making us laugh so hard we are crying.  Others have just been with me Chad and a couple of our friends just talking and laughing.  One night we got so drunk the boys went out to McDonald’s and I could not pronounce pickle for the life of me, I kept saying, “Please get me a hamburger no picky.”  When they go to the drive through, Mikie and Chad swore the lady asked if they wanted cole slaw…. yes, cole slaw at McDonald’s… that’s what made it funny. I guess you had to be there :) .  But we were toppled over laughing until 4am from those silly conversations.  Those are moments I will never forget.

20. Cry, Let It All Out

I used to be such a hard ass. Seriously, Chad said I had no heart and then something clicked within me when I had kids and now I am the biggest baby ever.  Sometimes it just feels good to let out those sobs, especially when watching sappy movies, so let it out. You’ll feel better afterward. I promise.

19.  Money Isn’t the Root of All Evil

I do not  believe that money makes you an evil person.  Money is needed in this time to make the world go around.  I believe if you use it to help yourself and to help others you are on the right track, but I don’t believe its evil, unless you use it for evil.

18. Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness

Money doesn’t make you happy. There are people with millions of dollars and they are alone.  I know you need it for basic things and for those fun extras, but remember it does not make your life.  Whether you live in a big house or a small apartment, its the quality of time you spending with your family and how feel about yourself that makes your life complete.

17.  Don’t Take Things For Granted

Some of my favorite moments were hanging out with grandma before she died.  What I would give to have her here again so she could see how I turned out.  I might not be perfect, but I am a good mom and I love my kids and my family more than life itself.  Spend that extra moment with your loved ones. Hell, my mom gets on my nerves, but I make sure she knows I love her.

16.  Say No

Sometimes we get so caught with wanting to help others and please others that we forget to please ourselves.  Sometimes saying no is a good thing because it allows you to do things you want or just not do anything at all.  If you say no to someone who is truly a friend, they would understand and be okay with it.  If they don’t understand, than that tells you what kind of person that person is.

15.  Smile

Smiling is contagious and that smile could make a person’s day. You never know who is going through something and just needs some small wonderful gesture such as a smile to lift them back up.

14.  You Can Do Anything

Before I was a mom, before I believed in myself, I was the realistic person, the negative Nancy who just needed to burst everyone’s bubble.  I have changed so dramatically since being that person and I believe if you want to do something, do it.  If you say you can’t, then you can’t.  But if you truly believe in yourself and what you want to do, what does Nike say?  JUST DO IT ;)

Which leads me in to my next one….

13.  There Will Never Be A Perfect Time

Chad wants to start his own T-Shirt company. We already bought his  website, he has already created so many different designs, but he is waiting for that perfect time.  With kids, looking for houses, me in school and working from home, there will never be a perfect time.  It has such low start up costs that it wouldn’t even affect us but he is afraid to take that step.   There is never going to be a superb time to start something, you have to take that leap of faith in yourself and just do it.  You can do it, I believe in you. The question is, do you?

12.  Hang Out With People Who Inspire You

I used to hang out with people who would just bring me down.  After reevaluating what I want from life, I have cut back a lot of friends and people that I associate with because they don’t inspire me and my relationship with them drains me.  I don’t want my kids to foster those types of relationships and I want to show them to look for people that inspire you, look for someone you can do a meeting of the minds with and bounce amazing ideas off of each other with.  When I read a book or talk to someone, I want to laugh and think, “Wow, I really enjoy this person in my life.”  That has meant letting some debbie downers go, but Chad has noticed a huge difference in my attitude.  I have noticed a huge difference in my thoughts and I will make sure my kids get inspired by me and they inspire me to be better. I want them to foster those kind of relationships with their friends as they get older too.

11. Find Your Passion

Life is too short to work a 9-5 because that is what you are told to do. Find your passion, find what you love and do it.  If you believe in yourself you can do anything you put your mind to.  I believe you could, if you believe you can.  Start today.

10. Give Yourself

I believe that we truly are happiest when we are helping other people and sharing our knowledge, time and money.  Once I start making enough income from this website and my Visalus stuff, I will be able to volunteer an afternoon of my time to help those a local homeless shelter.  I feel its so important to give back to people who are less fortunate than me.  And it makes me feel good helping other people too.  I’m sure you would feel the same way.

9. You Will Fail, But Get Back Up

I know that I am going to have trials and errors in my life, but my character isn’t defined by those failures. I believe my character is defined by the fact that I recognized what didn’t work, but I am willing to go right back at it.  You can do the same.

8. Eat Healthier and Exercise

Now, let me say this. I am not a freak about what you eat, I believe if you eat things in moderation that you are okay. However, I do believe that eating healthy and exercising will help you to be healthier and will work for you in the long run for when you get older. Take care of your mind, but your body is very important to.

7. Take a lot of pictures and write things down

I love documenting my life and taking pictures of my family or what food I’m eating because when my kids get older, they will see what their life was like.  I don’t think a memory could do justice for the totem pole that was put on my porch in college.  Yes, a totem pole :) .  And blackmail for the kids, here I come.  Cam dancing in his whitey tidy’s to I’m Sexy and I Know It is going to be great when he has first girlfriend.

6. Forgive Yourself And Forgive Others

This is the biggest one for me and I will admit, I hold grudges. I can still remember the lack of Valentine’s day gift I got last year from Chad and that when I was 4, I didn’t get the Barbie convertible that I could sit in and ride.  Seriously?  I need to forgive him (Hey, I’m a woman and I could bring it up at the drop of a dime) and my parents, as silly as those things sound. At the time, I felt like I wasn’t being loved, but I realized every other little thing my parents did for me and what Chad does for me is out of love.  So I forgive them and I forgive myself for my perception of this entitlement type thinking.

I forgive myself for not accomplishing what I wanted to faster in life. I can’t redo the past, but I am working on it now.  So instead of looking back, forgive and move on.

5.  Cut Back On TV

I am a TV-aholic and one of my New Year Intentions is to watch less. So far, I have cut back 3 shows this year, which is a huge deal for me.  Honestly, now that I have cut back on TV, I am more focused with my business and creating a happy and healthy environment for my family and our life.  It amazes me what cutting back on a few hours each week can do for helping build your business.

4.  If You Don’t Believe In Yourself, How Can I?

This is semi part of 3, but I thought it is important to have it separate because so many people do not believe in themselves.  I can’t make you believe that you can be what you want.  I can tell you that you are awesome until I’m blue in the face, but that won’t make you believe or act unless you truly believe that you are awesome.

3. Change Your Mind, Change Your Life

I have learned that the more positive and optimistic I am, the more happy the people around me are.  I believe that when you honestly believe you will be successful and you tell yourself those affirmations, that you end being successful.  I am in the process of that right now.  I love Visalus, which is a direct sales company I work for and I love creating this website.  I have found so many amazing resources and people by just believing in myself. They have shown me how to utilize online marketing and affiliate marketing to start being successful.

2. You Have to Be Accountable for Your Life

This is one of the biggest things I have learned in the past few years of my life.  It is so important that you do not blame anyone else or the past for what has happened to you. I didn’t have a childhood that was all unicorns and glow worms, but I am using that to create a better future for my kids.  Create an affirmation so you understand you are taking control of your life and you are being accountable for what you go through.  You gained 5 pounds this week?  Maybe you should have put the twinkie down.  You networked with 5 people this week?  You want to succeed because you are doing what it takes and you know you are responsible for that.

1. Just Be You

In previous relationships and friendships, I would change who I am to please that person and that is no way to live.  With my kids, I lost myself in the beginning because I was too busy being mom to remember who I was.  I took a step back, took some time for me and I really looked at me and now, I am who I am.  I will not change to please other people, but I will continue to evolve in to who I am.

Please share me with some lessons you have learned over your years.

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You Motivated Or Have You Lost Your Momentum?

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When you finally do gather your courage and begin moving forward, what usually happens? You realize it’s WAY harder than you thought it would be, right? It feels like you’re trying to run uphill. You keep hitting a snag or if you are trying to lose weight, that temptation is there for you and all your motivation goes out the door.

It’s during this difficult phase that you give up. You think to yourself that it must not be meant to be.  And once  you convince yourself  that you have “failed” you just don’t want to try anymore right?

Have you done this? Most people have!  I know I have.  I used to start things and the moment I would get criticism or hit a wall, I would just stop and do something else.  My attention span was like a 3 year olds, at least, that was my excuse as to why I wasn’t finishing anything.

However, this doesn’t have to be the end of your story. You can pick up your dreams, brush it off and guess what?  You can try it again and again until you succeed.  I posted a great quote on by Michael Jordan on my Facebook page.  To see it, please go check it out.  That quote just motivates me.

But this time you should know about a little thing called Momentum.

You see, what I described above is what happens when you are trying to gain momentum. Most people quit during this phase because you think it’s ALWAYS going to be this hard. What you don’t understand is that every effort you have just put in to achieving your goals, is going to be recognized once you hit this thing called momentum.

With every step forward the process gets easier and easier. And now what? You have much so much energy and time in to your goal that you are starting to hit momentum, you are starting to see those results and that is when the momentum is there. Suddenly you realize you don’t have to push so hard with each step forward, that it becomes easier and it becomes fun . . . even easy to achieve that goal.

This same experience can be yours! All you have to do is keep moving forward. What does Dori say?  Just keep swimming, just keep swimming…. Momentum WILL take over eventually!

If you want to get momentum working even more quickly for you there are a few ways to do it but lets make this simple for you:

Be willing to work harder, faster and take bigger risks than you have in the past.

Tell me, what is your goal? What are you going to do this year to hit that goal? To gain that Momentum?  Please share with me. I love your comments. If this hits home with you, please share this with people you know.  Sometimes someone needs that extra hint of motivation.

 

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Stop Making Yourself Fail!

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I am a firm believer in laws of attraction/mindset and how you create your own life.  I believe if you have a bad attitude about life, you are going to attract that.

Chad and I constantly disagree on things.  When we talk about things he is worried or stressed about, I tell him to think positive.  He HATES when I say that, he tells me, “I’m just being realistic.”  I HATE when he says that.   He seems to think being realistic will make the problems go away because he is “being responsible” and worrying about them.

I never understood logic like that.  Because you are worrying and being realistic it is going to just make it all better?  Nope.  But, if you’re a positive thinker and brainstorming ways to fix your issue, then I believe that is better than worrying.  I believe that instead of focusing on what’s real, what’s rough or even some of the negative in your life, that you need to focus on the positive.

If  becoming a positive thinker instantly isn’t going to work for you, its okay, it takes time.  There are days I am nowhere near positive and Chad definitely points out those days, but 90% of the time I do try to think positive.  Start small.

I used to wake up and before I did anything I would tell myself 3 things I was thankful for. On those days, I was so much happier and friendly with other people in my life.  I believe my attitude is what is going to make me successful with my businesses.

If you need help, an amazing book is called Think Right, Feel Right: The Building Block Guide for Happiness and Emotional Well-being and its by Robert Isett.  This is a good starting point for you if you want to build a happier life, not just for you but for your family or potential family you might have one day.

Don’t fail because you can’t see the positive.  If you grew that way, change it, change your thoughts. Once you do that, you will change your whole thought process and your attitude.  What is your attitude going to be?

 

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Your Success Is Your Mindset, So Is Your Failure

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You hear it all the time: “success is a state of mind.”  There are people who would argue that success is a natural result of proper planning, preparation and focused action, and that viewpoint certainly holds a grain of truth – but there are also many exceptions to disprove that “rule.”  Have you ever wondered how two people can attempt the same objective in the same way and only one of them succeed?  Is it sheer luck?  Timing?  Tenacity? No, it is most likely their attitude, their mindset, their belief about their end result.

I bet you are thinking, what is mind set?  Fabulous question!  Typically a mind-set refers to your day to day state of mind.  It’s what you think about, focus on, and expect from your daily experiences.  Think negatively, expect the worst, feel pessimistic about your options and that’s exactly what you’ll seem to draw into your life.  Likewise, think positively, expect the best and focus on a successful outcome and you get it most of the time.

Makes sense, right?  But how exactly does this work?  Why is a success mind-set so important?  There are three big reasons:

A Mindset for Success Boosts Your Confidence and Productivity

Without believing in yourself, you are going to feel powerlessness in your personal and professional life. You will believe there isn’t a point in trying because whatever you try you fail at. That is the exact opposite of what a success mindset is. This mindset is a recipe for failure.   I remember feeling like that.  I felt like I couldn’t do anything right, that I was alone and I was drowning myself in my own self-pity.

A book that helped me out of that is by Dr. Wayne Dyer and it is called the Power of Intention. I had a rude awakening with my thoughts and my mindset.  If you need a wake up, please click here to check out Dr. Wayne Dyer’s amazing book!

It made me realize that I couldn’t look to other people to believe in me. It also made me realize that instead of that constant need to be right that I needed to let go of my ego and to just start being.  I think that in order to be successful you have to let go of the ego, of the fear and just be and believe in yourself.

I believe that having a true success mind-set starts with the belief in your capabilitiesHaving a true success mind-set, on the other hand, means you believe in yourself and your capabilities.  Even better, the more you do try, the more confidence and self-belief you build – until you’re virtually unstoppable!

With A Success Mindset, Your Determination is Strengthened

Without a success mind-set, one failure is enough to convince you that pursuing your goals is a waste of time.  Tenacity and determination don’t exist in your world.  If you don’t become a raging success the first time you try, you surmise that it simply wasn’t meant to be.  Unfortunately, few things worth having are obtained so easily!

A success mind-set, however, strengthens your awareness that a failure is not the end of the story – it’s just one more way that didn’t work out the way you planned.  In fact, a true success mind-set makes it obvious that the only true failure occurs when you stop trying.

Have you ever found yourself wandering in circles because you didn’t know the best way to approach a specific goal?  Perhaps you had an idea of the best course of action but you felt intimidated by some of the action steps required.  As a result, you may have kept sabotaging your efforts as you searched in vain for an easier or less frightening way to your goal.

With a true success mind-set, you’ll always know the most effective action steps that will lead directly to your goal. If you don’t know, you are willing to research to find out what the next step would be.  As already discussed, you’ll also have the inner confidence and determination to pursue them – which is a sure recipe for . . . you guessed it; success!

If I had to sum up how to develop a success mind-set into as few words as possible, I’d say this:

  • - Go for your dreams.
  • - Think positively.
  • - Believe in yourself and that you can do better
  • - Learn, grow and develop yourself.
  • - Be willing to take chances and give it your all
  • - Expect the best in every situation.
  • - Be willing to fail, but when you do, get back up and try again

Your success or failure starts from the inside.  What is your new mindset going to be?

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Your Mindset Affect Your Intentions, Don’t Set Yourself Up For Failure

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Since it is the new year, I think I want to hit this nail on the head for you one more time.   I believe the most important part of mindset is believing in yourself. I believe that if you believe in yourself you can do anything.  I also believe that it takes actions to get there.

Most people write their intentions at the beginning of the year and I think that only writing it down that one time is going to set you up for failure.  In order to keep your specific goals in mind and fresh, I believe that you should rewrite your goals at the beginning of each week.  It gives you a chance to review where you are, what you have done and what you want to do.  It also helps you tweak things to do what’s working and makes you believe you can actually do it.

Now on the other side, imagine if you just write them down in the beginning of the year.  You think about them, occasionally look at them and just put them back on your desk.  How effective do you think that method is going to be with your mindset? With accomplishing your goals?  Not very effective, huh?

If you want to be successful, write them down as many times as it takes for it to sink in that you want these done, that you believe you are going to accomplish it.  This is your year, take it and run.  Believe in you!

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